Where does the time go? It is already early January! I promised to have a Master Mind around “You Were Born Rich” organized and ready to go! Well, to date it is almost ready, but I just have to secure a place to master mind!

So, on that note, I will keep you posted.

On the other note, I wanted to share with you six principles that have helped me in my business to manifest my goals. Goals you ask? Yes, if you haven’t developed your plan with stated goals for this year, best get busy.

The first principle is Clarity. And maybe that’s why some start their year out floundering. Oh yes, resolutions are good and made mostly for fun around the New Year parties. But if you are to get your year started with clear intention to create something this year, whether it is greater results in your business, a new vigor in a relationship, to rid yourself of someone or something that no longer serves you, to lose weight or improve your health, whatever it may be (and for some it may be several intentions) then it is time to chisel down to WHAT YOU WANT!

Because until you are clear about what you want, any road will take you there! As the saying goes, failing to plan is planning to fail.

So this is what you can do NOW. Write down twenty things you would like to be, do or have this year. Think big. Don’t hold back. Get your mind working around this. Then take a good look at what you wrote and narrow down to five of your desires. Take some time with this. This is SO important.

It is simple, but not easy. It is the first step in manifestation. Clarity.

If one of your desires is to travel, sit down right now and figure out where, when, and how. Do this with any of your desires. Create the path, create the journey.

Next, Step 2. See you next time!

The problem we had in 2009 is we allowed ourselves to “think” we can’t be successful because of the economy, the ineffectiveness of our new President, the demise of the dollar, the remnants of the 2008 market crash, etc., etc. etc.,.

What we put our attention on grows. And man, have we been putting our attention on this and look how the failures of 2009 grew. Whew.

We allowed ourselves to wallow as Victims, and most of us attended to too many pity parties.

Well, I am NOT going to attend any of those this year, and I invite you to ride along with me.

I have make up MY mind that 2010 is going to be MY year.

You want to join me?

I will be starting a Master Mind around Bob Proctor’s book “You Were Born Rich” in early January. I am still working on the logistics, but if you have any interest email me at teri@nogutsnoglory.org.

The key to a great year is to START it strong. No longer can we slip into the New Year unclear, unprepared, undecided, uninspired.

Watch for my blog next week and I will provide you with six steps to get your 2010 off to a great start.

For those of you that follow some of the most prominent personal development leaders, you may have heard the shocking news of last weeks deaths at a sweat lodge near Sedona, AZ.  The event was led by James Arthur Ray of CA.

Mr. Ray was one of the featured guests in The Secret.  He recently visited Tucson, where I live, to pitch his seminars.

I wasn’t particularly taken by Mr. Ray.  He was a bit too Hollywood for me.  Although his message was good and perhaps meaningful to the 200 hundred souls in the room there to seek a better life, I felt he was selling me the entire time he was on the stage.  I guess I didn’t see authenticity, even in his humbling story about his life.

I guess I have been to too many of the personal development forums, where the message is very powerful, but the upshot is that the presenter is really there to sell you their wares so that you too, can create the life that you have always dreamed.  I know this because I have been trained to do this myself.  It’s called marketing and closing the sale, basically.  It is just another way to create a need,  provide the solution, share the message, and create an income.   All good.

They all use it . . .the Bob Proctors, the Blair Singers, the T. Harv Eckers.  I am not criticizing, I am only writing this to see if I get anyone to comment on their opinion of this!   I have been sold over and over and most of the products are fabulous!   My life has changed as a result, and my business is designed to do the same; maybe in a more subtle manner.

Anyway,  I do have an opinion of some of the more challenging events that obviously can change lives in a way that wasn’t originally planned.

Now, back to Mr. Ray.  And to the type of activity  he was leading that resulted in this tragedy.  Getting into a sweat lodge with a large group of people — well, yes that would be getting out of my comfort zone.  But why?  Am I proving something to the collection of others or to myself?  Why would I want to sweat like that with a bunch of other people?   Maybe I had to be there to get it.

I encourage people to attend these with a level head,  lots of common sense, and care.  If the activity they are encouraging you to engage in, really takes you out of your comfort zone, listen to your intuition.  If your intuition says NO, don’t let the pressure of the others force you to feel you are less than they are because you choose not to engage.  I encourage my clients all the time to move out of their comfort zone, to do things that are uncomfortable in order to grow and move to the next level.

But let’s get real.  Let’s use some discretion here.   How does stepping into a sweat lodge going to make you a stronger leader, a smarter entrepreneur, closer to clarity about your life’s direction, a happier person?

I encourage your comments — am I missing the boat?

I am a mother of a son that has been harnessed by the addiction of meth.  In my days of living a passionate life, I also must embrace this fact.

Today, I don’t know where he is.  Yesterday, I didn’t know where he was.  Living in this vacuum of the unknown of addiction is frightening, disturbing, and I feel helpless.

Swirls of thoughts of him being a target of abuse, or worse yet, he abusing others in his desire to get his fix, some times overcomes me in the normal course of my day.  What happens when someone is defeated by a drug so incredibly powerful that he or she loses all sense of reality?

A friend confronted me yesterday based on our discussion of me being in AZ while he “lives” in CA.  She asked me, “Teri, what would you do if he committed suicide?”

My first thought was, how hurtful she is to ask me this question.  Does she not understand the pain, the hurt, the worry, the helplessness I already feel?  For 13 years I have tried to do everything I could to help him.  From holding his shaking limp limbs during a time when he was coming down from the drug, to arranging for him to go to St. Helena’s drug rehabilitation program, to feeding his starving dog, to begging him to stop this outrageous behavior  . . .  I have done all I know in my world to help him.

My second thought after this question was this.  Perhaps he would be relieved of his pain.  Perhaps he would find peace once and for all.

My heart aches with the mere thought of this; but I realize now that I am powerless over whatever he does.

I can no longer provide for him, as anything I might do may prolong his addiction by enabling him. He must now do for himself what he must to survive this battle.

Please God be with him and in this hour provide for his very highest good.

I love you my son.

Good afternoon.

For some reason, I am compelled to write about relationships.  And I am meaning the  one with our great love of our life, or with the expected or hopeful love of our life.

Sometimes I felt like I was truly happier when I wasn’t in a love relationship.  But then I think back on the empty nights, the social events going solo, the concerts with my single girlfriends watching happy couples, or the cocktail at the bar alone. Anyone with me on this?

Why is it that we can’t live with them, but we simply can not live without them?

Why is it that some days we just can’t communicate?  We are off — just like a golf game . . . an off day!   In fact, have you had moments when you just don’t want to be around your “love” of your life!!!  What’s that all about?

I know, not a very profound blog today!  Just venting a bit and hoping maybe someone else out there can relate.

According to the makers of “Beyond The Secret,” the movie was created to address the question that “The Secret” seemed to fail to do.  It’s one thing understanding the Law of Attraction, but another thing understanding how it works.

So let’s take a moment to first look at this Law.  In its simplest form, the Law of Attraction says that what you think about becomes your reality.  Good, bad, or indifferent.

What the experts are saying is that The Secret left out HOW to attract what you want.  Well, in a way it did, and in a way it didn’t.  It didn’t go into as much detail as “Beyond The Secret” does about getting into action.  After watching “The Secret” again, I believe that “Beyond The Secret” simply goes into more detail about taking ACTION.  ”The Secret” features more quantum physicists, where the other is a bit more practical.  However, both has the same message:

YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR DESTINY.  YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE.

In “Beyond The Secret” Bob Proctor talks pointedly about the Law of Vibration being the primary law, while the Law of Attraction is the secondary law.  What he means is that energy that we give out is critical to what we will attract.  He says that like energy attracts like energy.

Therefore, for example, if you continue to say “I can’t afford to do that.”  Well, guess what?  You can’t and you never will!   Because your energy that you are releasing is simply not congruent with what you truly want.  And then you wonder why you don’t have the money you want, or you don’t get the promotion with the raise, or you don’t attract the client who can pay you!

This is why it is so important to understand that the way we think dictates our results.  And this is why.  Our thinking creates emotion around an issue.  Emotion drives the vibration that moves us into action.  And it is our actions that create our results.  This may be a bit oversimplified.  If you seek more indepth explanation, I would be more than happy to go there with you.  But all you really need to know in your search for attracting what you want in life is that you must control your thoughts.  (See previous blog, Thoughts Become Things)

Emotion seems to be one of the key words in “Beyond The Secret.”  If you are emotionally attached to your dream, to what you want to be, do, or have, your chances of achievement of your dream is greater.

One of the contributors in Beyond The Secret suggested asking yourself  ”How I can — rather than Why I can’t.”  Basically focusing on getting into action rather than focusing on why you think you can’t be, do, or have!  Again, “think” is the operative word.

Understanding the Law of Attraction isn’t necessary to attracting what you focus on.  As Proctor puts it, do you understand electricity?  No.  Just because you don’t understand it doesn’t mean it doesn’t work!

In either movie, the message comes out.  You can create your life.  You can decide how you feel about something.  You can control your thoughts.

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I was talking to a fellow NAWBO (National Assn. of Women Business Owners) this morning.   She was feeling very discouraged in her pursuits to finding a new position where she could use her skills & expertise.  At one point in the conversation she was feeling so disheartened that she was close to giving up.

I hear this a lot as I visit with business owners and entrepreneurs.  The economy is struggling, no one has any money, no one wants to spend any money, no one needs my services, I am tired of networking that gets me no where, etc.   Many are giving in and giving up.

It is right at this moment, when you feel like you have no other alternatives, when you feel the world is against you, that I encourage you to keep on. 

Some suggestions:

1. Are you clear about what you want? 

One of my mentors, Janet Attwood, co-author of “The Passion Test”  a New York Times best seller states that until you are crystal clear about what you want, and only to the extent that you are clear, will what you want in your life show up.  I encourage you to get clear so that the Universe is getting the right request.

2. Create intentions for your day.

Before you end your day or first thing before you begin your day,  write out your intentions.  Write them as if you have already accomplished them.  For example:  I have walked 3 miles.  I have made 10 sales calls.  I have finished step one of my project.  I have secured business with my new client.  These are your affirmations for the day and they will signal positive energy.  And it is with this positive energy that you will attract what you need to accomplish your intentions for your day.

3.  Choose your thoughts carefully. 

It is of my opinion, that our results are a direct reflection of how we think.  Most current transformational leaders are teaching this, as I have discussed in an earlier blog.  Making a practice of carefully choosing only thoughts that serve you is so incredibly powerful.  It has been my experience that a very challenging day with difficult tasks, demanding relationships, and taxing situations can be shifted simply by changing the way we think about them.  The relief that I have felt by changing my way of thinking about the task, the relationship, the situation, has allowed me to move through my day with grace & confidence.

4. End your day in gratitude.

There is nothing more powerful than expressing gratitude.  If you choose to do just one of my suggestions, I would recommend this one.  Expressing gratitude for everything from a warm morning shower, to the greatest success of your day attracts more of what you are grateful for.  Do this for 21 days and watch your life manifest your greatest intentions!

So I stress to you to shift discouragement into encouragement.  Give my suggestions a try — and not just for one day, but for your lifetime.  You are worth the effort and the reward.

To passionate living,

Teri

Have you ever  had a morning when you woke up and wondered, how am I going to make it through this day?  I am not prepared, I am not smart enough, I don’t have enough experience, I am hesitant about asking for what I need.

Welcome to the world of Limiting Beliefs.  These are serious “voices” that insist we can’t do something, be somebody, or get what we want and need.  But just as we planted these beliefs from our past, so can we pull them from our subconscious mind in the same way we pull weeds from choking our flower gardens. 

Let’s begin with a quick understanding of where these beliefs generate.  We were born with no paradigms, no prejudices, no fears.  We were infants of pure bliss.  But as we ventured into our world, we were told “no, don’t do this or that, you will hurt yourself.”  “Who do you think you are, trying to climb that tree, you will fall (fail).”   “Money doesn’t grow on trees, and by the way, money is the root of all evil.”  I could go on and on and I am sure you have a few “don’ts” you were blasted with or areas in which you were chastised  as a young child.  Give it some thought.

So no wonder you have some doubts, right?

So are you doomed because you are controled by these beliefs?  My answer is NO.  However, undoing these negative notions takes dedication.   It takes time on your part to reprogram your subconscious mind.  It is in the subconscious mind that these limiting beliefs find their garden.  And if you deliberately pull out these beliefs by weeding daily, you can plant new beliefs as easily as the old were planted.

Let’s start by doing one simple thing every day that will begin the reprogramming process.  Are you ready to see some amazing results?

Start your day and end your day with an affirmation that proclaims who you are.  I use mine during the course of the day if I find myself in a challenging encounter with a co-worker, family member, store clerk, or service provider.  I repeat it often if I don’t feel well due to lack of sleep or my annual cold!  It has been incredibly helpful when I prepare for a keynote speech, or ask someone for their business.   It actually has become a mantra for me.  

I would like to share it with you:  “I am healthy, wealthy, beautiful & strong.” 

That’s it, you might be saying.  Yes, that’s it and it works.  Because if I focus on good health, profits, loving and believing in myself, I will attract these things.   And I have attracted these things because I have reprogrammed my mind.  I continue to reprogram on a daily basis. It must become a practice of caring for yourself in the same way you care for your teeth!

There are many more tools for reprogramming that I use to manifest what I want in my life!  Stay tuned to my blog for more ideas.  If you have anything that has worked for you and are willing to share, please comment.

To passionate living!

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